Unhappiness is something spawned from within. When you feel dour, there is something going on that you are not attending to. In order to take control of your life, there are crucial steps you have to take. While they do not have to be completed in order, you should treat these ten aspects as part of a plan for having a life that is fulfilling and joyful.
1. Be a minimalist
Life is so much more than working three jobs to pay for an apartment and living well beyond your means. Sometimes it is necessary to struggle… but most of the time, there are things you can rid yourself of to lessen the burden. That includes a toxic lifestyle that draws joy from you like a needle in the vein.
Rid yourself of any expenditures you do not need. Cut out the bad habits that slice years off your life, and only do what excites your passions. If you love something, do it with all your heart. If you find yourself recoiling from something, then stay away.
2. Have a vision
Goals are an astounding impetus. Goals serve as stepping stones, leading us to the summation of our aspirations. When you have something you can strive for throughout the day, week, month, and year, you lay out a blueprint of success that will keep you going until the end of your days. Never stop working towards your vision.
Sometimes that which we want most in our lives, or the answers of why the universe works as it does, is not immediately available to us. That is why meditation should have a crucial role in your life. Meditation teaches us to look deep within ourselves, past ourselves, and into everything. You both fill and empty the mind. Plus, meditation has benefits beyond reflection. Stress is reduced, sleep is improved, creativity is boosted, and you learn how to accept yourself for who you are.
4. Listen to your heart
How many times have you ignored the beating of your heart? And where did it get you? That pain in your chest when something does not feel right is called your intuition. When you partner it with common sense and learned wisdom, you become a force to be reckoned with. Listen to your heart. Follow its teachings. Do what delights it, and steer clear of what makes your heart ache or mourn.
5. Spend time with supportive people
One thing that potentially has deleterious effects on the heart and mind are the people you surround yourself with. If you want to live the best version of your life, it is time to do some people-weeding. Find those who influence you wrongly, and remove those toxins from your world.
You do not need people in your life who put you down, berate your efforts, misguide you, or abuse your kindness. Instead, seek out the people who understand your goals and appreciate your presence. When you have a supportive group backing you, it will never matter how far apart you are or how you go without seeing one another. These people will remain your friends for life.
Leaving the country you were born in may be the most frightening things you will ever do in your entire life. But you have to do it. Traveling this world is challenging, terrifying, and… overwhelmingly the most enjoyable excursion you will ever experience.
Travel teaches you how to be yourself, how to tackle difficulties and be resourceful. When you travel, you eschew social norms and stereotypes. You learn about cultures, languages, and perspectives that would have never been available to your otherwise. If you want to open your eyes truly, you need to travel.
7. Eat well
This is not my way of telling you to be a health nut. Rather, eat to fuel your passions and imagination. Eat for health, happiness, and laughter. Do not put poisons into your body, such as refined or artificial substances. Select ethnic cooking as you travel, cook at home when you can, and buy organic, local produce whenever possible. But indulge once in a while too. Never think of eating as an automated task.
8. Be honest
This world is full of lies. Do not play into them. Combat the dishonesty by being truthful, humble, and just. If something does not agree with your values and integrity, then do not simply go along with it because everyone else is. Stand up for what you honestly believe in; and if you do not understand something, be honest enough to admit it.
9. Solve your own problems
Blaming others for something that went wrong in your life is asinine. Not only does it make you look infantile and petty, but it degrades you in the eyes of everyone around you. Be responsible for yourself.
We all have our scarlet letters to bear, so do not exacerbate the wound by launching aspersions at everyone around you. When you learn how to deal with difficulties on your own, nothing can hold you down. You also realize that dependency on others is not a requirement for living life.
10. Make your happiness a priority
Many selfless social servants do not die with smiles on their faces, as sad as that sounds. You can endeavor to save the world, but if what you are doing does not make you happy, then what are you doing it for? What are you trying to prove?
Do not throw yourself away just so someone else can live (chances are they would not want that anyway). Self-sacrifice works in the movies, but nowadays, everyone should have a shot at happiness.
There you have it: ten crucial things you need to start doing for yourself. Implementing these actions and thoughts may not be easy, but give it a try. You will be surprised at the positive changes that come into your life. Live openly, and accept the new challenges that come. Every step you take is a step towards the next amazing chapter of your tale.